Sticks and Stones

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The old adage “sticks and stones can break your bones, but words can never hurt you”, simply is not true, according to researchers.
Psychologists found memories of painful emotional experiences linger far longer than those involving physical pain.

From BBC News

Well that doesn’t really surprise me. I haven’t had many painful injuries myself, but the mental damage that happened to me over the past 10 years has had an extremely profound effect on me, so much that I’m now accused of being delusional about my negative qualities. I just can’t believe anything positive about myself, I see hidden motives and lies behind any compliments I receive. A lot of my SA stems from a horrible image I have of myself due to the psychological bullying at school and sixth form. I just can’t let go of it, no matter how many people tell me that I have changed or that what those bullies said wasn’t true. I think psychological bullying can be just as devastating as physical bullying.

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7 thoughts on “Sticks and Stones

  1. Yeah, I completely agree with this too. I get the feeling I’ll be one of those adults who never lets go of the imagined scholastic hierarchy – that these people are somehow ‘better’ than me, because of their speech; that these people are ‘lower’ than me, because of their haircuts. It’s ridiculous and I pretend like it doesn’t affect me, but it has. It really has.

    Suzy x

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  2. Laura

    I agree. Like you, I’ve never experienced a really bad physical injury, so maybe I can’t compare it properly. But I know that when I get hurt physically, I forget it really quickly. But emotional pain lasts a lot longer.

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  3. Yeah, I completely agree with this too. I get the feeling I’ll be one of those adults who never lets go of the imagined scholastic hierarchy – that these people are somehow ‘better’ than me, because of their speech; that these people are ‘lower’ than me, because of their haircuts. It’s ridiculous and I pretend like it doesn’t affect me, but it has. It really has.

    Wow I can totally relate to this 😦 I would say you took the words right out of my mouth but I couldn’t have described it so eloquently.

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  4. uncensoredmind

    ive always believe words can and do hurt more than physical wounds.

    Nick – like i said before uve just got to try and find something u like about urself and build on it. then hopefully u can build a positive self image about urself. on one of my older blogs, members there were challenged to write at least 1 positive entry about themslves per week. maybe u can try that.

    anyhoo … hope ur having a better day than yesterday and that tomorrow is better than today

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  5. I’m going to try and keep a record of positive things that I’ve done. They won’t be very exciting, but even small things that make me anxious that I do anyway are good I suppose.

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  6. Can’t believe it took them this long to realise that or that they’re surprised. For me, the physical stuff hurts at the time but once the physical pain goes away, that’s it and it doesn’t mess with you anymore. However with the emotional stuff I don’t think the pain ever truly goes away, it can still be brought up years later and can hurt just as much as it did at the time.
    As for your list of positive things, it sounds like a really good idea, reading about anything at all that is positive that you did or accomplished can be a boost. Good luck with it!

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